No matter how we portray it, make excuses, or try to deny it our actions show in the choices we make. What do I mean by this?? Every day WE decide who and what we are going to make a priority in our daily lives. Are we going to choose to live the spiritual life we have chosen? Make an effort for the people we have chosen to have in our lives? Work towards the goals we have chosen to set for ourselves? These are all choices we have to make whether we acknowledge them or not.
We've all heard the saying "actions speak louder than words" and it's true! How long can you hold on to a person, dream, goal, or relationship if you aren't consciously making the CHOICE to work at making it stronger and/or better? Most people have a "breaking point" or a line that they have set either consciously or subconsciously that they just won't allow someone to cross and that's their point of giving up.
I personally find myself adjusting my line depending on the situation. Is this a good thing? I'm not so sure but I have come to know myself well enough that I don't like to be a quitter, nor do I like to fail. There are some people that walk in to my life that I let "EXIT" as soon as I see the first "red flag" and then there are others that overstay their purpose in my life because I've actually allowed them in deeper than most and I know it will actually hurt when they leave. It's almost like I'm prolonging the "ripping off of the Band-Aid" because I'm trying to avoid the pain. When in reality the longer I allow them to stay and show me how unimportant I truly am in their lives, I am making the choice to allow the hurt.
How many of us consciously think about how the choices we make will affect the people in our lives? Is it selfish of us not to? Or is it just a chance we expect people to take if they decide they like having us around? I know personally I try my hardest to not hurt people by the choices I make in my life. Am I always successful in doing so... probably not. That doesn't stop me from continually trying and acknowledging their feelings before I make a choice that could affect them or their feelings.
"When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time." Maya Angelou
That quote is a hard one for me to follow at times. I always have the "what if" in my head and hate wondering if I truly gave someone the opportunity to show their "real" selves.... and typically I end up getting hurt in the end. But once again it comes down to CHOICES.... Make sure the choices you make are the ones you can live with no matter how the situation turns out.
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