I've heard it said several times that 40 is kind of a breaking point where you really start to care less about what other people think or say about you, you realize who you want in your inner circle and who you want banished forever. There have been quite a few points in my life where I thought I was already at this point, but have since realized I'm just barely understanding the true meaning of this at 42.... It's not that you've just become a bitch as you have gotten older but you've lived long enough to be pretty much over all of the games and BS people like to throw your way.
1. Other People's Opinions.... UGH! Other people's opinions especially when they're about you mean nothing once you've realized they just DON'T matter. People can say you only date men with money, you're a party girl, you are cold and have no heart, but by this age you stop allowing other people's opinions, who truly don't know the person you are, to stop dictating your life and because you don't want their cesspool of negativity. And really how happy can THEY be if they feel the need to talk about you...
2. What YOU Can't Control.... There will always be those things in life that you can't control. When you finally realize this and let it go... there's a definite sense of freedom!
3. Trying to Fit In.... There are some people who spend their entire lives trying to fit in with the "perfect" group or what they perceive as the "right" people. When you finally realize that all you need to be is YOU and the "RIGHT" people will be apart of your life, then you find happiness. I like the idea of flying my freak flag and rolling solo!
4. Hanging on to Your Past Mistakes.... We ALL make mistakes, they DO NOT define us, and are merely pieces in our lives that have made us who we are today. They're necessary obstacles and we are practically grateful for them by this time in our lives.
5. Ending Toxic Relationships... Some people are just BAD for us! Some people, even if they are not cognizant of it, are toxic, horrible influences in out lives. And when we realize that removing them is healthy for us, it won't be a loss for sure!
6. Hiding your Blunt Honesty... There are still some instances where we tend to know that we need to "bite our tongue", but letting people who disrespect you, treat you bad, or do things to piss you off... you speak up and tell them what you think. Now I've had this talent for years, but I have noticed a change in it... it's a little more controlled as I have gotten older.
The freedom you start to feel when you stop trying to be the person that everyone else wants or expects you to be is AMAZING! You don't have to be or do what others tell you to be a wonderful person. It's taken me a long time to realize I am never going to be able to make everyone happy so I'll just start making myself the priority when it comes to happiness!
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